Wednesday, April 20, 2011


Assalamualaikum, salam sejahtera sahabat ain sekalian.

Suatu ketika dahulu, ain begitu aktif berkongsi gambar-gambar terkini di FB tanpa menyedari kesannya pada masa akan datang.Kini, gambar-gambar peribadi semuanya ain simpan untuk tatapan sendiri tanpa perlu didedahkan kepada mereka yang ain sendiri tidak pasti siapa yang akan melihat.

Ada juga gambar-gambar tersebut tersimpan rapi di FB rakan-rakan yang lain.Ain telah cuba meminta dengan cara baik agar gambar-gambar ain itu dihapuskan dan tidak sesekali ain memaksa.Namun, sudah pasti ada yang berasa tidak puas hati.

Di sini, ingin ain kongsi artikel ain dapati daripada seorang penulis blog kegemaran ain.Moga dengan perkongsian beliau, terjawablah persoalan rakan-rakan sekalian.

Nurkilan daripada atau lebih ain kenali dengan panggilan Kak Haza.


“And stay quietly in your houses, and do not display yourselves like that of the times of ignorance...” ~ [Al-Ahzab:33]

From my meagre understanding, The Purification Verse above is exclusively meant for the The Prophet’s SAW wives. But I have decided that if there is a perfect example for a Muslim to follow, it must be them, as they were superior in piety and conduct. If they strictly followed the directives from The Quran, then I should learn to do the same, to the best of my ability.

Lately I have begun to see how awkward it is that, while I am very vigilant about covering myself so as not to be seen in person, I have no qualms about posting my photos on the Internet (even in my niqab). The same goes for publishing references to my private life as well. My inconsistency exhibits my ignorance. And what is tearing me apart is, if only I had seen all of this much, much, much earlier.

I have also noticed that my more respectable fellow bloggers, columnists and writers have never shown their pictures or those of their families online. I have no idea what they look like, even as I follow their insightful articles or interact with them over the Net. Some I don’t even have an inkling of an idea about their private lives.

I am beginning to see it as something spectacularly cool and intelligent. Be heard, be loud, be tacky in getting your message across, but be extra smart and not share photos and personal details on such a boundless global platform called the Internet. Be invisible. Be anonymous. On top of that, never let total strangers in on the details of your private life. It will only cause more harm than good. What is private should be kept private.

Allah has taught us not to make a dazzling display of ourselves in that particular Surah and as I am sure most of us have found out the hard way, what Allah forbids always turns out to harm and hurt us in the end. It is when we are too arrogant to listen and humbly obey that we run the unnecessary risks. I don’t even have to elaborate, I am sure you can think for yourself what happens when anyone with access to the Internet can surreptitiously enter our lives. It is not always pleasant.

I don’t know if this will make a difference, but we have overexposed ourselves, my beloved brothers and sisters. I don’t think it is too much to say that we have gone too far. The line is blurred, if not totally erased. It is high time we pulled the brake here. Stop.

In the old days, we only shared stuff with our family and friends. We took photos and kept them in albums (the kind that we could touch) at home. A stranger we passed downtown would never find out what we had for breakfast, where we were heading for the weekend, what we were up to over the weekend, whether we had an argument with our spouse, or what the interior of our home looked like, and a thousand other private matters that they had no business knowing.

But now we need to face the harrowing truth: in the era of the Internet, everything we used to keep within the four walls of our home is now public knowledge. We are so excited about sharing that we have forgotten there are borders that should never be crossed.

This begs the question: do we really have to?

Of what benefit it is to us, or to anybody, that we must let everyone with access to the Internet know every personal detail in our lives?

It might be for the best if we, my beloved brothers and sisters, can gradually remove ourselves from this oversharing madness. It has been proven that we can still share beneficial knowledge, spread The Deen, inspire others, participate in constructive intellectual discourses and drive home conclusive points of arguments without ever having to expose our photos or our personal lives.

And while we are at that, in my personal opinion that is how the Internet should be best utilized: seeking and sharing beneficial knowledge, spreading Islam and how to become better persons, and contributing in healthy, constructive discussions. Socializing should be observed within the boundaries of the Shariah.

If we are on Facebook, let’s now really consider: does it benefit us to have those strangers on our friend list, whether or not they really interact with us? Especially if they are of the opposite gender? Does it benefit us to post our pictures, or those of our innocent children? What is really our motive? If we are married, do we expect compliments from or to impress other than the one we are legally bound to? How does our spouse feel about it all? If we know our spouse is committing this crime against the teachings of Islam, has it become so “normal” in this day that we have become so brainwashed we no longer feel the tinge of jealousy?

And we need to be all the more careful when we author blogs, because unless we set our blogs as private, we have absolutely no control over who can read them. Does it benefit us to exhibit or even insinuate what is best kept private? It is undeniable that the more we expose ourselves, the more we leak our weaknesses. I don’t recall who said this, but it might be worth pondering: “It is better to be thought a fool and keep silent than to open one’s mouth and remove all doubt.” Share all you want, but don’t throw caution to the wind, remove yourself a bit from whatever you are sharing. Stop getting too personally involved.

If we have been deceiving ourselves with our vain indulgences over the Internet, it is never too late to reform. Let us islah ourselves. Make kaizen. Let us launch a new revolution: retreating from the oversharing madness, taking back the more integral, honorable part of our self from the global cyber society, leaving only what could be of benefit to us and others.

And I am reminding myself here. Aren’t we wasting precious hours in vain, discussing inane nonsense, culturalizing narcissism, gloating, condescending, gossiping and slandering? Hours where we could have benefited from reading The Quran or studying The Deen or perfecting our solah or paying extra attention to our children’s spiritual growth so they will become exemplary Mukmins?

Just look at the sorry state of the Muslim family today. Is it any wonder we can hardly relate ourselves to Allah who has created us, on Whose earth we are living, from Whose sustenance we are eating and drinking, or with His Messenger SAW? Sometimes we cannot even believe that advice and reminders about The Deen are actually meant for us! We convince ourselves they are only for others who are interested (the square, dull, no-fun type), not us! Will it be too much to blame this spiritual decay on us, the parents, for spending too much time on the Internet and matters that should not take precedence among our priorities, instead of focusing on our children?

We claim we are Muslims, but are we living Islam? Do we even know what it means that we are Muslims? Do we realize how we have the audacity to lie to Allah everyday?

“Guide us to the right path; the path of whom You have bestowed favors. Not of those upon whom wrath is brought down, nor of those gone-astray.” [Al-Fatihah: 5-7]

We ask Allah to guide us so we are always on the right path instead of the path of those who have incurred His displeasure. Now, let us ask ourselves honestly, aren’t we being a tad hypocritical here? Let us really, really frisk ourselves and our lifestyles. How are we different from them, really, when we are too arrogant to submit to His will?

So as we sit with our computers or smartphones now, raring to shout out our thoughts and feelings, flaunting our best poses that compliment our appearance, let’s double check our intentions: do we absolutely need to post this entry? Do we absolutely need to show off this picture? Are we secretly hoping to impress people? Will it make us feel good when people praise us for it? Will it feed our ego, a burden which Islam has taught us to deflate? Will it land us in the Hellfire, because even a mustard seed of arrogance will secure us a ticket there, unless we repent? Are we compromising our true obligations because of this?

Do we realize that Allah is watching? Is He pleased with what we are posting?

Do we know that the angels on our left and right are recording it?

Do we believe that some day we will have to stand before Allah and answer for all of this?

We have been blessed with the mental faculty to think and make the best decision that will see to our happiness and contentment, to our freedom from harm and hurt, in this world and the akhirah. So let us think wisely, filter our posts, trash the trashy non-beneficial material, delete the Imaan-compromising photos, delete our accounts if our involvement is drawing us away from Allah and stop this absurdity before we click these buttons:

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